Ellis Family

I love this family so much. Not only are they my dear friends but Aubrey is one of my son’s best friends. He loves hanging out with her. Who could blame him!? She has those doe eyes that accompany such an amazing personality. They get along so well! 

Not to mention her parents, Brittany & Kyle whom both are crazy about eachother and have so much fun together! They really are raising the most amazing little girl! 

Brittany and I have been friends for a long time and things will never change! She’s my go to girl for every problem, so chill and our friendship is easy. That’s how you know it will last a lifetime. I’m so proud of the mom she has become. 

Here is the Ellis family! 

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How to Land the Job

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I get a lot of calls from people when they or someone they know are looking for a job. People ask me all sorts of questions about hiring processes, resume writing, as well as questions that they might be asked during an interview. I am not an expert by any means, but I have learned a lot on my journey. This blog will be about the things that I’ve learned that I would advise as well as what not to do when searching/interviewing for a job. My opinions and views are not the opinions and views of the company that I work for. They are my opinions and views and mine alone.

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Pre-Application

Before you apply to any jobs, the first thing that you should do is, make sure that you have a voicemail box set up on your phone. I know that this seems like common sense, but often times people forget to set it up or they didn’t finish setting it up completely. Have you ever called your voicemail to see what it sounds like? Do it! If you’ve applied for a job, and the employer looks over your resume and decides to call you, you’ve already gotten past the first step. If someone doesn’t have their voicemail box set up, it really sets them back. Often times employers have hundreds of applicants apply to one position, not being able to receive voicemails may get your application thrown out.

Creating a proper email address is another thing that I strongly suggest doing before applying anywhere. I like to have an email address that I specifically use for business purposes. The absolute best email address that you can have for applying for jobs is: firstnameandlastname@wherever.whatever   or  lastnamerandomnumber@wherever.whatever  You really don’t want something as simple as an email address to make you look silly.  And you know the ones that I’m talking about, “Freshmanhottie@whatever”  “Imawesome@whatever”  “partygirl101@whatever”. It seems silly and funny but seriously guys, change your college email addresses.

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Updating your resume is the MOST important thing you can do before applying anywhere. This is the first thing that employers see before they see your face. You are representing yourself on paper, and you want to represent yourself properly and accurately. My best advice for this, is to do a lot of research on resume writing. Research the best ways to list what you did at previous jobs, research what type of resume format works best for what you’re applying for and what you’ve done previously. Research the best ways to write a cover letter.  Make sure that when you apply, you are putting the right company that you want to work for. I see ALL of the time where people submit one cover letter to a position and company, that is NOT the same company/position that they’re applying for. Also, make sure you’re accurate on dates of employment on any applications.

Most people can’t afford to hire someone to write their resume for them, but all it really takes is a little time and research and you will be on your way to next opportunity.

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Research possible interview questions to bring yourself up to speed before your interview.  Especially, if you haven’t interviewed in a while. My favorite question that most employers ask is, “Why should I hire you over anyone else?” Look for possible questions pertaining to what you’re applying for as well. It doesn’t hurt to be prepared.

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Interviewing

I read somewhere that an employer knows if they’re going to hire you or not within the first 90 seconds of them meeting you. If that’s true then we have 3 minutes to make the best impression as possible.

If any employer asks you to tell them a little about yourself, they aren’t usually looking for personal information. They don’t care how many kids, dogs, or cars that you have. They are looking for content & work history. If you do decide to add something personal, say it first, don’t make it about that, and turn it into something work related. Don’t just go on and on about your family. You could say, I moved here when I was 10, Colts fan all the way, I’ve been in the industry for 15 years, I worked at XYZ company for 2 years after college, moved on to ABC company for 10 years and now here we are, I am looking to expand my knowledge, and continue to further my skillset. Obviously don’t say exactly that, but you get the picture. You could mention your love for volunteer work or your love for succeeding at anything that you set your mind to. You definitely want to set yourselves apart from everyone else but don’t want to go so far away from mainstream that you can’t come back.

Big_smileWhen you’re interviewing its a great idea to keep smiling every so often.  There are so many people that sound depressed and mono toned while there interviewing with an employer. It makes me wonder if that’s they’re personality, or if they’re just really nervous. It’s okay to be nervous, and nervous smiles are just as good as regular smiles. Please remember that the person interviewing you is a person just like you are. They might have a different  “title”  than you but that doesn’t make them any better than you.

At the end of the interview, if they haven’t said they want to move forward, they might ask you if you have any questions for them.  Even if you don’t have a question, make up one. You still want to set yourself apart from other candidates. “When can I expect to hear something back?” “What’s the next step in the hiring process?”

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While you’re waiting to hear back from an employer, don’t call them! It makes you look too desperate. If you’re going to do anything, send an email or a thank-you card, if you haven’t heard anything in a week or so. Then by two weeks, if you haven’t heard anything you can assume they’ve decided to go in a different direction. If you want to do anything at this point, you can see about reaching out for future advice from them. They might give you some pointers or be able to tell you why they went in another direction and what you might be able to do better next time.

Don’t forget that while interviewing, you can be selective as well. As questions about the company to see if you’re really interested. See if you can look around to see what it’s like to work there. Don’t forget that you can accomplish anything that you set your mind to! If you want to work somewhere you will! If you want to succeed, set your mind to it and make it happen!!

I look forward to reading your comments.

XOXO AV

Sleeping Problems

Am I the only one that has trouble falling to sleep? I’ve read (and witnessed) that when men lie down to go to sleep they are asleep in five seconds, my husband is like that. Women on the other hand, myself included, lie down and think about every conversation, every action, what they did or didn’t do and what they need to do the next day. Every night it takes me about 20 minutes to fall asleep. It’s even more difficult when DH is snoring away and I haven’t drifted off yet. 

I lie there making lists in my head of things I need to get done tomorrow, next week and next month. Why do we torture ourselves like that? 

I’ve recently read an article on falling asleep, and learned a tip that’s worked for other people and, I’ve been doing it for weeks now and it totally works!

I do not want to lie there thinking, I just want to sleep! When my thoughts start drifting into the abiss, I say to myself, you know what? I can think about this tomorrow… Let’s go to sleep and I start repeating 4,7,8…4,7,8…4,7,8…4,7,8… It seriously works everytime!!! I wake up the next day and think wow, that was so easy. And really it doesn’t have to be 4,7,8 it could be anything, 123, 456, anything. But you have to keep repeating it to keep your mind from drifting to your thoughts if you want to focus on sleep. 

I don’t want to lie awake all night wasting sleep when my child will be waking me up very early the next day. 

Try it and let me know if it works for you!! 

Xoxo

AV 

Making Something Out of Nothing

I’ve been watching the Extreme Cheapskates show and have been getting inspired to be more of a cheapass… 😂 They do crazy things like pee in jars to save $10 a month for not flushing as much, they put a brick in the back of toilet to save on water ( I don’t know if these actually work) This one woman who didn’t want to pay for a gym membership goes to different sporting good stores to “test” cycling bikes 3xs a week, and the same woman puts heavy objects in the bottom of her inground pool to keep the water from emptying so fast. There are a lot more things that they do but these are just to name a few, and while most of them are batshit crazy, it had us reevaluating our spending.
We’ve been doing little things to minimize our monthly debt; keeping the heat lower when we aren’t home, lights off in the daytime, (trying) not to buy alcohol and if we do it’s cheap beer, the “normal” things that people do to save a buck.
But lately we’ve been trying to spend as little as possible on groceries which is good for our wallets, but not necessarily for our health. The price of food is at an all time high (it makes no sense because fuel prices have gone down so much but, that’s another story) and healthy food is even more expensive. And it’s too expensive to let it go to waste but we hate eating leftovers!
On another hand we are getting so tired of eating the same things over and over and haven’t had time to look up new easy things. When we went grocery shopping for the week we didn’t really have a list and were in a hurry (hate that, so not me) but we just grabbed essentuals and stuff to make spaghetti and a couple pizzas (ugh, even tired of looking at the words of those meals) With it feeling like -18 outside today both of us decided we weren’t leaving the house, especially with Dolan. So, I got the bright idea to see what we had laying around the house to make. All we had were odds and ends things and there was no way we could make a meal out of any of it.
But, thanks to Pinterest, I got some ideas! I’ve really been wanting egg drop soup and I looked up the recipe and it requires chicken broth. *Sigh* I did not want to go to the store! So I looked for alternatives for the chicken broth and read one thing; vegetable stock, but couldn’t find a recipe… I had fresh carrots and fresh corn on the cob, so I decided to do trial and error thing and figured I wouldn’t be out much if it didn’t work.
I started by cooking the carrots and corn, sliced the corn off of the cob and used my magic bullet to purée them. It looked discusting!!! I added water and started boiling it. Aside from being carrot(y) tasting it wasn’t bad! Ha! So I added more water and continued to look for a recipe. I actually found one, and it was considered vegetarian egg drop soup since I didn’t use chicken broth. I didn’t stick to it fully but it helped a lot as far as seasonings go and how many eggs to use.
Now, I know my husband, and I figured that this wouldn’t fill him up. I had half a box of whole wheat fettucine noodles and had set aside some fresh shredded carrots and corn for it. I also had a little teriyaki sauce and orange ginger sauce left over and I combined them and doused the cooked noodles in it with the corn and carrots and it’s actually really good!!
While I was looking up these Asian cuisines I came across a cookie from chow mein noodles. What!? David loves chow mein noodles ( and has a natural sweet tooth) and we happen to have some!! It called for melted butterscotch morsels but I had carmel icing left over, I melted it down and added marshmallows!! I seriously can’t wait for him to wake up and try everything!
In the mean time I’ve already found new meal ideas on Pinterest to try!! Have you ever made a meal from nothing? I want to hear about it!!

Xoxo
AV

Addiction Follow Up (read after addiction)

So I deactivated my Facebook for five whole days. Reading that aloud makes me laugh out loud, literally.
It’s not really a laughing matter though, it’s a serious thing. I was spending way too much time on there!! I’ve accomplished so much around the house just being away from it. I promised to tell you guys my struggles, the worst part was not really talking to my friends. We mostly talk through the messenger. But remember texting? Lol I like that better anyway. But mostly I didn’t miss anything on Facebook and it didn’t miss me. It was just such a habitual thing that took up so much of my time for no reason at all…
I’m still struggling with getting on it, I really hate addicted I am to it. 3 minutes turn into 5 and 5 turns into an hour! Do you know how many tasks you can complete in an hour? 😝😂
So what I did was keep my Facebook and messenger app deleted from my phone and if I want to get on it I get I the mobile site. I hate the mobile site. It’s not as accessible and most of all I can’t stalk people and see when they were last on… It’s such a hassle to get on the mobile site that I just don’t do it. And days like today I told myself I wasn’t going to get on it at all, and I haven’t! Yesterday I got on three times and that was enough and too much for me. I get so tired of seeing the same posts from the same people and the same people commenting on things… So I am going to keep doing what I’m doing and if you’re important you know my phone number….. 😝☺️😂

And I’ve been enjoying talking to my friends on my other social media accounts 😀😀😀😀

✌️xoxo
AV

Addiction

I just put my children to bed…. Well my one child, my husband child falls asleep every night when we put Dolan to bed. Every.single.night… How does one get as tired as a baby? No we didn’t go out for New Years Eve if that’s what you’re thinking…. I think I’m getting old, I really had no desire to go out, get shitfaced and be miserable for the next day or two. I mean I wanted to go out, but just thinking of the repercussions made me feel like I had a hangover already.

But this post isn’t about getting old or getting drunk. Most of you who know me know that I don’t like too much of anything. I don’t like the thought of being addicted to anything nor anything having control over my body nor my life. I have always been told that too much of anything will kill you.

I’ve realized recently that I’ve been on Facebook nonstop for a while now. Anytime I get a split second, I get on there for no reason what so ever. I scroll through feed that I’ve already looked at three times that day. It’s sad really, I feel like I’m missing out on precious moments with my family just to see what people I haven’t seen in 10 years are posting…

I’ve tried logging out of Facebook, and seeing how long I can stay logged out, I’ve tried deleting the app and now finally I have deactivated it at 7 am this morning. I gave no warning to my friends or family and it’s 10pm and not a single person has noticed that I left. That doesn’t really bother me, but it makes me feel worse about my constant use of the mindless app. I love staying in touch and in contact with people I know but I don’t want to be on it constantly. I don’t want to put an app before my family. It’s ridiculous.

I’m not going to see how long I can stay deactivated nor am I seeking attention of any kind, and I will be coming back when I feel that I’m ready. I want to be able to decide when I really want to get on and how long I will stay on. I’ve wasted so much time on Facebook it’s unreal. Already today I’ve rearranged my linen closet, spent time with family and reorganized my pantry and cabinets. I’m certain that I wouldn’t have done it had I not deactivated.

So I want to ask my friends, is there anything that has control over you? Are you wasting time on ridiculous things? Are there productive things you could be doing if you weren’t constantly doing this thing that you’re doing? I’m not doing a new year new me thing, I’m doing a reevaluate how I spend my time thing…

I will keep you guys updated on my journey, in the meantime, is there something you need to give up?

Xoxo
AV

This and That

As we are getting ready to head to Indy for Dolan’s 1 year check up, so many things are running through my head…

Holy shit I still can’t believe he’s a year old already. People tell you that it goes fast but you don’t realize it until you experience if yourself. This last year has flown by so fast, it literally seems like yesterday that he was born.

It is so freaking hard being a parent. Every little thing that we do affects how they will turn out. Dolan is still kind of sleeping in our bed. People have given me a lot of shit for that and I don’t really think it’s fair for parents to judge other parents. Oh yeah I forgot that you’re a perfect parent…my husband works nights, I work part time, why should I get up a thousand times in the night with him and become a groggy ass zombie? But the last two nights he has slept in his own bed, so we’re working on it. I’ll be very proud to tell the doctor that he’s off the bottle, getting his fruits & veggies and show her that he’s already walking. She will be thrilled. It’s funny how these little things like being a proud parent makes us so happy.

He is climbing everything now; the fireplace, toys, chairs and he rides his four-wheeler backwards… This kid literally has no fears. He’s a daredevil! I spank him sometimes when he isn’t listening and it doesn’t phase him at all… He just keeps on not listening. I can’t wait to see where we are a year from now, hopefully he’s listening a little better. (Haha, a girl can dream, right?)

I think about the goals that I had for myself as an individual before I had him and yes, a career matters to me very much but definitley not as much as being a parent. I was happy before I had him of course, but I felt like I didn’t really have a place in the world. Like I didn’t fit anywhere and always wondered what my purpose was in life. They say that there’s no harder job than being a parent and I totally agree. It has nothing to do with money, it has everything to do with raising a good person, and he will hopefully have Faith in God and himself. My faith has never been as important to me in life as it is now. I’m not afraid to say that I believe in God and I know that he is guiding my life in the right direction. I pray and thank Him every night for the blessed life he has given me.

I think that it’s more difficult than ever to raise a child in today’s society. The way that technology rules the world and kids have access to so many things that they never used to. There’s so much pressure to look and feel certain ways and do certain things more so than ever before. I am going to continue to do my best to raise Dolan the right way with good manners, good behavior and respect for his elders and hope that everything else falls into place. I know some really great parents and they are doing a wonderful job raising their kids, and I hope to follow in their footsteps.

Don’t forget to spend all the time you can with your kids, they grow up in the blink of an eye. And they will remember all the bad times instead of the good, so let’s make them all good!!!

That’s it for now!!
XOXO
AV

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